A woman has shared her bafflement over the ongoing feud with her neighbour, despite her best efforts to maintain a cordial relationship. Upon moving into her new flat, she made every effort to be a good neighbour, leaving cards on special occasions, greeting them with a smile, and even politely requesting they keep the noise down before 7am.
“You know, basic decency,” she penned.
Despite her attempts, the relationship soured, primarily due to her neighbour’s disregard for her reasonable request for quiet mornings.
She vented her frustration on Reddit, stating: “The main culprit (let’s call her Teresa) used to get ready for work at 4am during our first year. FOUR. IN. THE. MORNING.
“It sounded like a herd of elephants doing CrossFit in my ceiling. Then her schedule ‘changed,’ and for the past year and a half, she only works twice a month on weekends… Yet the early-morning chaos continues like clockwork”, she said.
In contrast, she and her husband are “very quiet,” don’t host parties, and rarely have guests over.
“We know their bedroom is right above our living room, so out of respect, we shut everything down by 10pm during the week and retreat to our bedroom. Still, the stomping continues all night long, often exceeding 70db, and my security camera catches it regularly. I’ve been keeping a log for almost two years, just in case,” she detailed.
A woman has vented her frustration over her neighbours who she claims follow her “from room to room, stomping in perfect sync” with wherever she walks in her flat.
“They eavesdrop on conversations. They text or call my phone in the middle of the night-often at 3am-while stomping over my bedroom because I wasn’t answering. (I was asleep.) This morning at 6am, Teresa texted me again about ‘running a machine.’ I have no idea what she means, but apparently, she thinks my life is public property,” she raged.
She was further incensed by the neighbour’s audacity to complain about her music, which she only plays in the afternoons when she’s “cooking or doing chores”. “They even texted our landlord about it, even though I’ve never involved him otherwise-past experience shows landlords don’t care about noise,” she revealed.
“At some point, after years of polite patience, I snapped and cursed her out. Since then, I avoid her completely if I see her outside,” she seethed.
She also clarified that moving wasn’t an option at the moment, so there was nothing she could do on that front.
In response to her story, one person suggested: “Block them from calling or texting you for a start”.
She confirmed that after their last barrage of texts, she had done just that, saying she didn’t respond and it was “straight to blocked” for them.
“With the documentation you have, I’d file a police report! This sounds like harassment to me, especially the calling while stomping to wake you up?” another advised.
One Redditor advised: “How to ignore ignorance: You have to somehow learn to accept that what is going on has nothing to do with you, and it’s not because of you why they are doing it, and it’s not your fault they are doing it. They obviously have some form of psychological issues or emotional issues.
“I don’t know what, but they have something going on upstairs. Another thing you have to accept is that you can’t change them; they have to change themselves. I know it’s hard to be nice to people who don’t respect you, but being nice to them and showing them you’re happy is a good thing.
“Then they will see that their actions are not getting to you, and very well could change or stop doing it. You could address them by letter, explaining how their actions are making you feel. Read literature on how to accept difficult people”.